Find your path back to presence, pleasure, and connection.
Somatic sex coaching for individuals and couples online. Move beyond performance and shift from your head back into your body to reclaim presence and pleasure in every season of life.
A Reintroduction to Yourself
Whether you are navigating postpartum, menopause, or a significant shift in your identity and body, there is often a real need for reintroduction. Our bodies change, and the way we relate to them has to change, too. For many of us, we have spent years playing a role or simply going through the motions. This can leave us feeling stuck and disconnected from the skin we live in. This is a space to stop "performing" and start reclaiming pleasure as something that belongs to you.
Identifying your Pathways
I don’t believe in a one-size-fits-all process. In our sessions, I use anatomical models and diagrams to help you understand how your body actually works. I will introduce you to five somatic tools: breath, awareness, touch, sound, and movement, to help you reconnect with your physical experience. These tools offer a different way to look at your experience, providing a clear starting point for us to understand what is happening in your body.
Finding out Together
We work together to identify what your body is communicating, noticing the subtle ways you might pull away or move toward what feels good. I provide tools and scripts to help you put these physical experiences into words so you can clearly express what you are noticing. This isn't just for a single moment; it is about being present as you move through your day. When we stop playing a role and start listening to what we actually need, we find our way back to a genuine sense of connection.
Meet Michaela
Kia ora, I’m Michaela, a Certified Somatic Sex Coach, Sexologist, and the founder of Desire Pathways. With a BA in Psychology and training in somatic sexology, I help individuals and couples get back into their bodies and find more confidence and pleasure in their sexual lives.
My work is built on three essential pillars: consent, presence, and pleasure.
I work with those who are ready to stop "going through the motions" and move from their head back into their body. Using the five somatic skills of breath, awareness, touch, sound, and movement, I support you in identifying what your body is communicating. This isn't about performing. It is about slowing down, finding your presence, and rediscovering what it feels like to have ease in your own skin.
I am passionate about helping people understand how embodiment shapes our daily lives and relationships. I am a registered member of the Somatic Sex Educators Association of Australasia (SSEAA) and participate in regular professional supervision to ensure a safe, ethical, and professional practice for every client.
Choosing your Pathway
This work is designed for those ready to move beyond performance and back into presence. Whether you are coming to this alone or with a partner, we work together to find the tools that fit your specific experience.
Individual Pathway
A space for those navigating life transitions, reclaiming personal pleasure, or looking to move from "going through the motions" back into their own body.
Reconnect with your body and your desire (Moving from a sense of "autopilot" or numbness into genuine feeling.)
Navigate transitions like menopause, postpartum, or changes in libido (Acknowledging that as your body changes, your relationship to pleasure must also evolve.)
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Move through shame or anxiety
Work through the confusion and heavy emotions that can surround intimacy in a safe, non-judgmental, and guided space.
Increase confidence and self-awareness
Build a deeper understanding of your own responses so you can feel more self-assured and present in your sexual experiences.
Feel more present and embodied
Learn practical ways to stay "in" your body and move from a sense of "autopilot" back into genuine, felt connection.
Receive the sex education you missed
Fill in the gaps with the practical, body-positive information about your sexuality that you should have had in school.
Relational Pathway
A space for partners looking to move beyond the "roommate phase," expand their erotic connection, and build a new language of presence together.
Move past the "roommate phase" by establishing a shared somatic language (Finding a way to connect that feels genuine rather than performative or forced.)
Navigate mismatched libido or changes in desire (Addressing the "gap" between partners with practical tools instead of pressure.)
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Reconnect and rebuild closeness
Find your way back to each other when intimacy has faded, moving from a sense of distance into a more grounded, felt connection.
Communicate openly about needs and boundaries
Build a shared language to talk about desire and pleasure with ease, ensuring both of you feel heard and respected.
Explore your sexuality together
A safe, guided space to get curious about your erotic connection at your own pace, focusing on what feels right for both of you.
Strengthen your emotional and erotic bond
Move beyond the surface and use presence and awareness to deepen both your friendship and your physical connection.
Events & Experiences Based in Taupō
Bringing "Sex Ed for adults" to your next gathering. I facilitate fun, meaningful experiences in Taupō designed to spark connection, curiosity, and confidence. These sessions move beyond the usual to look at desire and intimacy with professional insight and ease.
Hens’ Parties & Bridal Showers: A sophisticated alternative for your celebration. Get dressed up and dive into a facilitated conversation about body confidence and pleasure.
Couples’ Date Nights: Practical, guided sessions to help partners move out of their heads and back into their bodies together.
Upcoming Workshop Series: I am currently developing a series of specialised group workshops, including sessions focused on embodied consent.
* I travel to your home or Airbnb within the Taupō region to facilitate your private event.
Every coaching pathway begins here.
Before we start our work together, we begin with a Foundations Session. This is a 30-minute online conversation to ensure we are the right fit and to clarify what you want to achieve in our sessions.
Whether you are looking for individual or relational coaching, this initial meeting is where we establish consent, presence, and safety from the very beginning.
Session Fee: $50 NZD
The Credit: If we decide to move forward, this $50 is credited toward your first full session.
Format: A secure video link from the comfort of your own space.