Somatic Sex Coaching (Online Worldwide)
Find your path back to presence, pleasure, and connection.
BA in Psychology • Registered SSEAA Member • IICT Approved Somatic Sex Coach
I Work With:
People with Penises
Ready to move away from performance pressure and reconnect with your body? This safe, inclusive somatic sex coaching space is designed specifically for penis owners to drop out of overthinking, unlearn conditioning, and build a deeper connection to themselves and their intimate partner(s). Whether you want to move away from predictable, goal-oriented sex routines, manage challenges like early ejaculation and erectile dysfunction (ED), or create your dream sex life and reach more satisfying sex, explore how a collaborative, conversational and experiential approach can transform your intimacy. Click below to discover how you can start your journey toward presence and pleasure.
People with Vulvas
If you are tired of putting on a show or of feeling like your own pleasure needs to be "earned," this supportive somatic coaching space is here for you. These sessions for vulva owners can look at moving away from people-pleasing patterns in the bedroom, managing challenges like vaginal numbness or desire changes and dropping out of the overthinking loops that leave you feeling disconnected from your body. Together, we will unlearn deep-seated conditioning, learn to prioritise your experiences, and open up new pathways to expand your sex life. Click below to begin exploring a path to more pleasure, presence and connection.
People in Relationships
If you and your partner(s) are tired of over-analysing your intimacy or getting caught in the same predictable scripts, this relational somatic coaching space offers a fresh path forward. We will explore how to navigate differences in desire, manage performance pressure, and build a shared language around consent and pleasure. By learning to tune into your nervous systems together, you can break out of old patterns and co-create a more satisfying sex life together. Click below to discover how you can expand your relational journey.
In this space, your gender identity, sexuality, and background are honoured. While some sections of this website use anatomical terms like penises or vulvas to help map out specific biological patterns and tools, I recognise that anatomy does not define gender.Whether you are cisgender, transgender, non-binary, gender-fluid, or intersex, your lived experience is valid here. Desire Pathways is proudly sex-work positive, queer-affirming, and trauma-informed. While my relational coaching scope focuses on monogamous dynamics, this remains a non-judgmental environment where you are safe to explore intimacy on your own terms.
The Process
Book & ConfirmSelect a time for your 30-minute Foundation Session ($50 NZD). To finalise your booking, you’ll need to read and accept the Terms & Conditions and Privacy Policy.
The booking calendar automatically adjusts to your local time zone.
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The Foundation SessionWe meet via Zoom to discuss your goals. I will complete your intake form with you during this session, ensuring we have a clear, shared understanding of your needs and establishing safety from the very start.
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Ongoing Pathways & IntegrationOnce we’ve established a fit, choose the Individual Pathway (1:1) or Relational Pathway (2:1) to begin the transformational work. After each session, you'll receive a recap and tailored 'home-play' exercises via email to help integrate presence and pleasure into your daily life.
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Meet Michaela
Certified Somatic Sex Coach, Sexologist & Founder of Desire Pathways
Kia ora, I’m Michaela Tutty. Ever since I was young, I have been fascinated by how we connect, how our bodies change, and how we navigate intimacy. It is this lifelong curiosity that drew me to psychology, sexology, and becoming a Certified Somatic Sex Coach and Sexologist. I founded Desire Pathways because I want people to have a safe space to be curious about what is going on in their sexuality.
Whether you choose individual coaching or come in for relational work, we use the five core somatic tools of breath, awareness, touch, sound, and movement to drop out of the head, lower the pressure, and return to the body. This is a supportive space where we slow down and explore what feels natural to you, helping you move past what you think you should want and step into what your body already knows. To ensure an ethical and supportive space for you, I participate in regular professional supervision.
BA in Psychology, Massey University
Registered Member of the Somatic Sex Educators Association of Australasia (SSEAA)
IICT Approved Somatic Sex Coach
Every coaching pathway begins here.
Before we start our work together, we begin with a Foundations Session. This is a 30-minute online conversation to ensure we are the right fit and to clarify what you want to achieve in our sessions.
Whether you are looking for individual or relational coaching, this initial meeting is where we establish consent, presence, and safety from the very beginning.
Session Fee: $50 NZD
The Credit: If we decide to move forward, this $50 is credited toward your first full session.
Format: A secure video link from the comfort of your own space.
Referrals & Self-Referrals
I work collaboratively with GPs, psychologists, and allied health professionals to support clients seeking guidance with sexual wellbeing, intimacy, and relational connection.
You do not need a medical professional to get started because individuals and couples are welcome to self-refer directly or book straight into a foundation session if you feel ready.
Sessions are online-only, fully clothed, structured, and completely client-led.
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