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* Michaela is a Certified Somatic Sex Coach. This is not medical advice or a replacement for therapy.
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What happens after climax? When intimacy ends as soon as the man finishes, both partners miss out on a deeper connection. Explore how redefining "sex" and understanding your body's nervous system can transform your intimate life.
Worried your self-pleasure habits are affecting your sexual performance or relationship intimacy? Certified sex coach Michaela Tutty explores the science behind masturbation frequency, performance anxiety, and how to cultivate a shame-free solo practice.
Why does seeing an escort often trigger more turn-on than dating or casual hookups? In this Ask Michaela post, we strip away the stigma to explore how transactional boundaries protect your autonomy, why novelty sparks a surge of dopamine and adrenaline, and how to bring that same clarity into your dating life.
"I lost my confidence after my ex came out to me." In this Ask Michaela Q&A, we explore practical tools and somatic exercises to unpick performance anxiety, establish low-stakes boundaries, and reclaim your sexual agency.
Ever found yourself counting light fixtures or trying to feel less during sex just to delay a climax? In this Ask Michaela edition, I break down why quick-fix distraction tactics fail, how your nervous system's "brakes and accelerators" work, and 3 evidence-based somatic tools to help you stay present and confident.
Experiencing a shift in pleasure when moving from solo play to sex with a partner is common. Discover the two main reasons why squirting or ejaculating can be harder to achieve with a partner, from emotional safety to set pleasure pathways, and how to bridge the gap.
Navigating a multi-month relationship dry spell can feel isolating, but understanding your desire dynamics is the first step toward reclaiming your connection. By introducing low-pressure check-ins and prioritising goal-free somatic touch, you can safely dismantle performance anxiety and invite genuine intimacy back into your partnership. Read on for practical communication tips and body-first strategies to help you and your partner.
Loving your partner deeply doesn’t always guarantee an automatic erotic spark. Discover the biological and somatic reasons why your sexual desire naturally shifts over time, and learn how you can intentionally create a safe, pressure-free environment to help your body safely turn back on.
Curious about how body-based sex and intimacy coaching works in practice? Let’s pull back the curtain on how demonstrations work, what safety boundaries are always in place, and what you can expect in a coaching session.
A reader asks how to balance tongue penetration with clitoral focus during oral sex. We unpack the anatomy of "shallowing," why 70-80% of vulva owners need external stimulation to climax, and how a somatic approach can take the pressure off the "finish line."