Somatic Sex Coaching for People with Penises
A safe, inclusive space to drop out of your head, unlearn conditioning and return to your body.
Is this For You?
Sexuality can feel complicated when what you think you should want, what you actually feel, and how your body reacts aren’t aligned. If you are ready to move toward pleasure, presence and connection, this space is for you.
You may be Experiencing:
Goal-Oriented Sex
Feeling like the climax is the finish line
Navigating conditioning from porn or societal scripts that have taught you what sex is “supposed” to look like
Realising that your sex has become too predictable and goal-oriented
Relying on alcohol or substances to get into the right mindset, relax, or feel ready to engage in sex
Disconnection
Getting stuck in a loop of overthinking, worrying about staying erect, or checking out instead of feeling pleasure
Feeling entirely disconnected from your body or feeling detached from physical sensations during sex or masturbation
Chasing a quick, short-term release from sex or pornography rather than experiencing a safe, steady physical connection
A packed schedule that leaves zero physical or mental space for genuine desire or arousal to show up.
Conditioning and Hidden Shame
Carrying unspoken fear, confusion, or silence around your sexuality from how you grew up or the environment you were raised in
Navigating societal beliefs that pressure men to always be ready, perform perfectly, or focus strictly on a rigid idea of masculinity
Holding onto underlying guilt, frustration, or shame around masturbation, pacing, or how your body responds
Unsure of what you want
Feeling unsure how to communicate your actual desires, boundaries, or sexual fears to a partner without feeling judged
Wanting deep intimacy, but feeling unsure, overwhelmed, or freeze-prone when it comes to receiving slow, conscious love and physical touch
Feeling exhausted by the expectation to always lead, initiate, or direct the sexual experience, and wanting a different way to relate
What we can explore in sessions
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Move away from performance anxiety and goal-directed habits. Learn what you actually find good and nourishing without the pressure to put on a show
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Move out of your head, overthinking, and erectile worry. Learn how to drop back down into your physical body so you can feel sensations as they happen
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Explore the full map of your pelvic and nervous system anatomy. Understand how stress, arousal, and erections actually work in your body so you can work with your biology. If you have a partner, you can also learn more about their anatomy to drop the guesswork and build confidence
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Deconstruct societal pressures and porn-based scripts that tell men they must always be ready or perform perfectly. Give yourself permission to define intimacy on your own terms
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Build the confidence and vocabulary to express your true desires, boundaries, and sexual fears to a partner, shifting your intimacy from a routine into connection.
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Transform your personal relationship with your body. Learn conscious, slow solo practices that help you rewrite old masturbation habits, build sensation, and expand your capacity for pleasure
How it Works
Somatic sex coaching is collaborative, conversational, and experiential. Everything is tailored toward the goals we create during your foundation session. Because you will be unlearning conditioning that has been present since childhood, it is important to know that this deep work takes time and is not a quick fix.
The Foundation Session
Every pathway starts here. During this initial session, you will get the opportunity to explore where you currently are, and we will create goals to achieve during our time together.
Tailored Somatic Exploration
We use a blend of somatic and psychological approaches tailored to you. This can include working with tools like breath, physical awareness, touch, sound, and movement to help you drop out of your thoughts, unlearn old patterns, and reconnect with physical sensation.
Practical Integration
The work we do is designed to translate into your real life. We will create small, manageable practices you can explore at home in between sessions so that you can achieve your goals.
Bringing a Partner Into Your Process
While this pathway is focused on your personal relationship with your body, intimacy does not happen in a vacuum. If you are in a relationship and your partner is willing, we can easily transition into a relational session. This gives you a safe space to practice communication, set clean boundaries, and explore shared somatic tools together.
Ready to Transform your Sex Life?
The path to pleasure and presence doesn't have to be navigated alone. If you are ready to unlearn old conditioning and build a deeper connection with yourself, let’s connect.
Book Your Foundation Call
The first step on your journey is a 30-minute Foundation Call. This is a safe, completely confidential space for us to meet, discuss your unique goals, and see if this somatic pathway is the right fit for you.
There is a $50 investment for this call, which will be fully credited toward your first coaching package or pay-as-you-go session when you decide to move forward.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Think of our Foundation Session as a comfortable space where we lay the groundwork for everything to come. It’s less about jumping straight into deep work and more about getting on the same page and making sure you feel confident before you commit to ongoing sessions.
Here is a look at what we will do together:
Set your goals: We’ll talk about where you are right now and where you want to go in terms of your sexuality.
Establish Our Partnership: We’ll look at how we team up. My role as your coach is to guide you, hold a safe space, and offer tools. Your role is to show up as honestly as you can, participate, and try out tools between our sessions.
Introduce Your Somatic Toolkit: We will explore the 5 Somatic Skills that we’ll use throughout our time together:
Awareness
Breath
Sound
Touch
Movement
Housekeeping: We’ll quickly go over the practical things, like scheduling, how we check in with each other between sessions, and standard confidentiality and cancellation policies
By the end of our time, the admin stuff will be out of the way, you’ll have a clear sense of the tools we'll use, and we will be completely ready to begin the work towards your dream sex life!
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No, there is no nudity involved. Any practices that I recommend will be practised on non-erotic body parts during our sessions. You can then explore them in private, and we will explore how it went at the start of our next session.
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Not at all. This coaching is primarily about your personal relationship with your own body, desire, and pleasure. While we can bring a partner into the process if you choose, the foundation of this work is entirely focused on you.
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Because we are unlearning deep conditioning and rewriting how you connect with your body, this work takes time. Though everyone’s journey is different, most clients find that committing to a series of sessions allows for the deeper, lasting integration needed to achieve their goals.
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Individual Pathway
We begin every coaching relationship with a 30-minute Foundations Session ($50 NZD) to discuss your goals and ensure we are a good fit. From there, you can choose the path that best suits your flow:
Pay-As-You-Go:$180 NZD per 60-minute session. This path offers complete flexibility, allowing you to book and pay for individual sessions as you need them.
4-Session Bundle:$550 NZD total. If you prefer structure and continuity, you can commit to a 4-session package. Because you have already completed your foundation call, your $50 fee is credited directly toward this package, bringing your remaining investment to $500 NZD.
Relational Pathway
Pay-As-You-Go: $290 NZD per 90-minute session. This option allows you both to book and pay for your joint sessions one by one, moving entirely at your own pace with the spaciousness of a full 90-minute session.
4-Session Relational Bundle: $850 NZD total. Couples looking for dedicated focus and consistency can transition to a hybrid package that balances shared space with individual exploration. This includes two 60-minute individual sessions (one for each partner) and two 90-minute joint sessions. Your $50 foundations fee is credited directly toward this package, leaving a remaining investment of $800 NZD.
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Sex therapy typically focuses on diagnosing and treating psychological blocks, dysfunction, or past trauma through talk therapy. Somatic sex coaching is present-focused, collaborative, and body-centred. We focus on embodiment, education, and actionable practices to help you expand your capacity for pleasure and presence.