Somatic Sex Coaching for People with Penises
A trauma-informed space to unlearn performance pressure, rebuild your sexual confidence, and feel present in your body
Is this For You?
Sexuality gets overwhelming when your mind, your expectations, and your body’s physical reactions are pulling in opposite directions. If you’re ready to step off the pressure wheel, quiet the noise in your head, and reconnect with physical sensation and pleasure, you are in the right place.
Sex Coaching is Right for You if:
Sex feels like a performance test or a task with a deadline rather than an enjoyable physical experience.
You get caught overthinking, worrying about staying erect, or checking out instead of being able to feel physical pleasure.
You feel detached or numb from physical sensations during sex or masturbation.
You rely on alcohol or a drink to relax, quiet your mind, or feel "ready" to engage in intimacy.
You’re navigating unspoken shame or silence around sex from societal scripts, porn, or how you were raised.
You feel exhausted by the expectation always to initiate, lead, or direct the sexual experience.
You use quick sex or pornography as a stress-relief mechanism rather than feeling connected to your body.
You struggle to communicate your actual desires, boundaries, or fears to a partner without feeling judged.
This work is not:
X Hands-on bodywork, erotic touch, or sexual services
X Psychotherapy or clinical trauma therapy for acute crises
X A quick-fix script or directive advice on how to perform
What we can Explore:
Reclaiming Your Pleasure
Shift away from treating sex like a performance test. Discover what feels good in your body when there is zero pressure to perform or achieve a result.
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Body Awareness & Presence
Drop out of overthinking, performance checking, and mental noise. Reconnect with genuine physical sensation and learn how your nervous system shapes arousal.
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Body Literacy & Anatomy
Demystify genital anatomy and arousal mechanics for both penises and vulvas. Learn how pelvic floor tension, breath, and stimulation affect your body as well as your partner's pleasure.
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Unlearning & Communication
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Unpack societal scripts, porn expectations, and unspoken shame around sex. Build practical communication tools to share your desires, set clear boundaries, and support your partner’s nervous system without feeling judged or overwhelmed.
Have any questions about what we can cover?
How it Works
Somatic sex coaching is collaborative, conversational, and experiential. Everything is tailored toward the goals we create during your foundation session. Because you will be unlearning conditioning that has been present since childhood, it is important to know that this deep work takes time and is not a quick fix.
All sessions are online, clothes-on & hands-off
The Foundation Session
Every pathway starts here. During this initial session, you will get the opportunity to explore where you currently are, and we will create goals to achieve during our time together.
Tailored Somatic Exploration
We use a blend of somatic and psychological approaches tailored to you. This can include working with tools like breath, physical awareness, touch, sound, and movement to help you drop out of your thoughts, unlearn old patterns, and reconnect with physical sensation.
Practical Integration
The work we do is designed to translate into your real life. We will create small, manageable practices you can explore at home in between sessions so that you can achieve your goals.
Bringing a Partner Into Your Process
While this pathway is focused on your personal relationship with your body, intimacy does not happen in a vacuum. If you are in a relationship and your partner is willing, we can easily transition into a relational session. This gives you a safe space to practice communication, set clean boundaries, and explore shared somatic tools together.
Ready to Transform your Sex Life?
The path to pleasure and presence doesn't have to be navigated alone. If you are ready to unlearn old conditioning and build a deeper connection with yourself, let’s connect.
Book Your Foundation Call
The first step on your journey is a 30-minute Foundation Call. This is a safe, completely confidential space for us to meet, discuss your unique goals, and see if this somatic pathway is the right fit for you.
There is a $50 investment for this call, which will be fully credited toward your first coaching package or pay-as-you-go session when you decide to move forward.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Think of our Foundation Session as a comfortable space where we lay the groundwork for everything to come. It’s less about jumping straight into deep work and more about getting on the same page and making sure you feel confident before you commit to ongoing sessions.
Here is a look at what we will do together:
Set your goals: We’ll talk about where you are right now and where you want to go in terms of your sexuality.
Establish Our Partnership: We’ll look at how we team up. My role as your coach is to guide you, hold a safe space, and offer tools. Your role is to show up as honestly as you can, participate, and try out tools between our sessions.
Introduce Your Somatic Toolkit: We will explore the 5 Somatic Skills that we’ll use throughout our time together:
Awareness
Breath
Sound
Touch
Movement
Housekeeping: We’ll quickly go over the practical things, like scheduling, how we check in with each other between sessions, and standard confidentiality and cancellation policies
By the end of our time, the admin stuff will be out of the way, you’ll have a clear sense of the tools we'll use, and we will be completely ready to begin the work towards your dream sex life!
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No, there is no nudity involved. Any practices that I recommend will be practised on non-erotic body parts during our sessions. You can then explore them in private, and we will explore how it went at the start of our next session.
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Not at all. This coaching is primarily about your personal relationship with your own body, desire, and pleasure. While we can bring a partner into the process if you choose, the foundation of this work is entirely focused on you.
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Absolutely. A lot of this work centres on your personal relationship with your body, unlearning porn conditioning, and building internal presence. You don't need to be in a relationship to build sexual confidence and body awareness.
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Because we are unlearning deep conditioning and rewriting how you connect with your body, this work takes time. Though everyone’s journey is different, most clients find that committing to a series of sessions allows for the deeper, lasting integration needed to achieve their goals.
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Individual Pathway
We begin every coaching relationship with a 30-minute Foundations Session ($50 NZD) to discuss your goals and ensure we are a good fit. From there, you can choose the path that best suits your flow:
Pay-As-You-Go:$180 NZD per 60-minute session. This path offers complete flexibility, allowing you to book and pay for individual sessions as you need them.
4-Session Bundle:$550 NZD total. If you prefer structure and continuity, you can commit to a 4-session package. Because you have already completed your foundation call, your $50 fee is credited directly toward this package, bringing your remaining investment to $500 NZD.
Relational Pathway
Pay-As-You-Go: $290 NZD per 90-minute session. This option allows you both to book and pay for your joint sessions one by one, moving entirely at your own pace with the spaciousness of a full 90-minute session.
4-Session Relational Bundle: $850 NZD total. Couples looking for dedicated focus and consistency can transition to a hybrid package that balances shared space with individual exploration. This includes two 60-minute individual sessions (one for each partner) and two 90-minute joint sessions. Your $50 foundations fee is credited directly toward this package, leaving a remaining investment of $800 NZD.
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Yes, 100%. All sessions, intake details, and communications are confidential. Your privacy and safety are paramount in this practice.
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Sex therapy typically focuses on diagnosing and treating psychological blocks, dysfunction, or past trauma through talk therapy. Somatic sex coaching is present-focused, collaborative, and body-centred. We focus on embodiment, education, and actionable practices to help you expand your capacity for pleasure and presence.
Have a Question Before You Book?
If you're wondering whether somatic sex coaching is right for your specific situation, want to clarify what we can cover, or just want to check in before booking your Foundation Session, send a brief message using the form. I typically reply via email within 24–48 hours.
*Tip: Be sure to check your spam or promotional folders for my reply, as emails about intimacy and coaching can sometimes get filtered.