Somatic Sex Coaching for People in Relationships
A safe, inclusive space to drop out of your heads, unlearn conditioning and return to your bodies.
Is this For You?
Intimacy can feel complicated when individual conditioning, mismatched desires, and the routine of daily life get in the way of true connection. If you are both ready to move past performance, deepen your communication, and create a shared language of pleasure and presence, this space is for you.
You may be Experiencing:
Mismatched desire
Balancing a difference in desire where one person is usually the one initiating, and the other feels like they are pulling away
Feeling like you are always compromising what you actually want to keep the peace or make your partner happy
Routine Sex
Feeling like sex has become a chore, a box to check, or a predictable cycle
Disconnection
Feeling as though you have gone from being in love to being roommates
Wanting to be close, but finding that you both get easily distracted, stuck in your heads, or unable to focus on the sensation of touch
Feeling a sense of anxiety or pressure around initiating, which leads to avoiding physical closeness altogether
Stress and Exhaustion
Finding that a busy daily routine or family schedule leaves you both too exhausted to transition from "doing mode" into a sensual space
Struggling to shut off the mental to-do list, making it difficult for your body to relax and access desire and arousal
What we can explore in sessions
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Navigate mismatched desire levels, learning to meet each other where you are without pressure. We will learn to understand the dynamic where stress blocks desire for one while intimacy feels like stress relief for the other, helping you build a mutual runway for arousal to show up naturally
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Break out of a shared intimacy routine and stop just going through the motions together. Discover new, pressure-free ways to touch and connect so you can shift intimacy from a high-pressure chore on your shared to-do list into a space to connect.
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Explore practical somatic ways to co-regulate and soothe your nervous systems as a couple. Move past the cycle of pursuit and withdrawal to build a new, shared language of presence together.
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Learn how each of your bodies experience pleasure and what they need to feel safe and aroused
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Practice voicing deep desires, setting honest boundaries, and making requests without fear of rejection or conflict.
How it Works
Somatic sex coaching is collaborative, conversational, and experiential. Everything is tailored toward the goals we create during your foundation session. Because you will be unlearning conditioning that has been present since childhood, it is important to know that this deep work takes time and is not a quick fix.
The Foundation Session
Every pathway starts here. During this initial session, you will get the opportunity to explore where you currently are, and we will create goals to achieve during our time together.
Tailored Somatic Exploration
We use a blend of somatic and psychological approaches tailored to you. This can include working with tools like breath, physical awareness, touch, sound, and movement to help you drop out of your thoughts, unlearn old patterns, and reconnect with physical sensation.
Practical Integration
The work we do is designed to translate into your real life. We will create small, manageable practices you can explore at home in between sessions so that you can achieve your goals.
Scope of Practice
Please note that somatic sex coaching is an embodied, goal-oriented educational process. I am a certified somatic sex coach, not a couples counsellor or relationship therapist. Our work together focuses on physical connection, nervous system regulation, and intimacy patterns. If your relationship is experiencing acute distress or active trauma, traditional relationship counselling is the best first step. We can absolutely use somatic coaching alongside therapy once your foundational relationship dynamic feels stable.
Ready to Transform your Sex Life?
The path to shared pleasure and presence doesn't have to be navigated alone. If you are both ready to unlearn old conditioning and build a deeper connection with each other, let’s connect.
The first step on your journey is a 30-minute Foundation Call. This is a safe, completely confidential space for us to meet, discuss your goals as a couple, and ensure this somatic pathway is the right fit for you.
There is a $50 investment for this call, which will be fully credited toward your first coaching package or pay-as-you-go session when you decide to move forward.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Think of our Foundation Session as a comfortable space where we lay the groundwork for everything to come. It’s less about jumping straight into deep work and more about getting on the same page and making sure you feel confident before you commit to ongoing sessions.
Here is a look at what we will do together:
Set your goals: We’ll talk about where you are right now and where you want to go in terms of your sexuality.
Establish Our Partnership: We’ll look at how we team up. My role as your coach is to guide you, hold a safe space, and offer tools. Your role is to show up as honestly as you can, participate, and try out tools between our sessions.
Introduce Your Somatic Toolkit: We will explore the 5 Somatic Skills that we’ll use throughout our time together:
Awareness
Breath
Sound
Touch
Movement
Housekeeping: We’ll quickly go over the practical things, like scheduling, how we check in with each other between sessions, and standard confidentiality and cancellation policies
By the end of our time, the admin stuff will be out of the way, you’ll have a clear sense of the tools we'll use, and we will be completely ready to begin the work towards your dream sex life!
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No, there is no nudity involved. Any practices that I recommend will be practised on non-erotic body parts during our sessions. You can then explore them in private, and we will explore how it went at the start of our next session.
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It is very common for one partner to be ready before the other. If your partner isn't ready to join you, you can absolutely begin this work on your own. Doing your own somatic work can have a huge, positive ripple effect on your relationship. To explore individual pathways, you can take a look at either the For People with Vulvas or the For People with Penises pages, depending on your specific anatomy.
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Because we are unlearning deep conditioning and rewriting how you connect with your body, this work takes time. Though everyone’s journey is different, most clients find that committing to a series of sessions allows for the deeper, lasting integration needed to achieve their goals.
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Every relationship journey begins with a 30-minute Foundation Session ($50 NZD) to map out your goals together. Following that initial call, you can choose how you want to move forward:
Pay-As-You-Go: $290 NZD per 90-minute session. This option allows you both to book and pay for your joint sessions one by one, moving entirely at your own pace with the spaciousness of a full 90-minute session.
4-Session Relational Bundle: $850 NZD total. Couples looking for dedicated focus and consistency can transition to a hybrid package that balances shared space with individual exploration. This includes two 60-minute individual sessions (one for each partner) and two 90-minute joint sessions. Your $50 foundations fee is credited directly toward this package, leaving a remaining investment of $800 NZD.
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Sex therapy typically focuses on diagnosing and treating psychological blocks, dysfunction, or past trauma through talk therapy. Somatic sex coaching is present-focused, collaborative, and body-centred. We focus on embodiment, education, and actionable practices to help you expand your capacity for pleasure and presence.
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Yes, absolutely. Somatic sex coaching pairs incredibly well with traditional talk therapy. While your therapist helps you navigate your emotional dynamics, communication loops, and relationship history, our sessions focus specifically on the physical, embodied side of intimacy. Working with both approaches together can give you a well-rounded path toward reconnection.
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Sessions are 90 minutes for couples to ensure we have enough time to explore two individuals’ experiences with the care needed