Welcome to the Desire Pathways Blog
Here, Somatic Sexologist and certified somatic sex coach Michaela Tutty answers the burning questions submitted to the ‘Ask Michaela’ feature of the website.
She additionally writes about what happens in sessions, what sexual issues sex coaching can help with and other areas of sex, relationships and intimacy that pique her interest.
Ask Michaela: How can males last longer in bed?
Ever found yourself counting light fixtures or trying to feel less during sex just to delay a climax? In this Ask Michaela edition, I break down why quick-fix distraction tactics fail, how your nervous system's "brakes and accelerators" work, and 3 evidence-based somatic tools to help you stay present and confident.
Ask Michaela: How to Approach Your Partner During a Relationship Dry Spell
Navigating a multi-month relationship dry spell can feel isolating, but understanding your desire dynamics is the first step toward reclaiming your connection. By introducing low-pressure check-ins and prioritising goal-free somatic touch, you can safely dismantle performance anxiety and invite genuine intimacy back into your partnership. Read on for practical communication tips and body-first strategies to help you and your partner.
Ask Michaela: Clit vs. Tongue Penetration
A reader asks how to balance tongue penetration with clitoral focus during oral sex. We unpack the anatomy of "shallowing," why 70-80% of vulva owners need external stimulation to climax, and how a somatic approach can take the pressure off the "finish line."
Ask Michaela: Why have I lost interest in sex with my partner when I'm still deeply in love?
Loving your partner deeply doesn’t always guarantee an automatic erotic spark. Discover the biological and somatic reasons why your sexual desire naturally shifts over time, and learn how you can intentionally create a safe, pressure-free environment to help your body safely turn back on.
What is a Somatic Sex Coach?
What does a somatic sex coach actually do? Hint: it is not what you think. Explore how bridging psychology and body awareness can help you drop out of your head, lessen intimate blocks, and expand your capacity for pleasure and connection.
Why I Started Desire Pathways
If you have ever felt stuck in your head during intimacy, you aren't broken. You are likely just stuck in a survival response. In this post, I share my personal journey from survival to true agency, and explain why I started Desire Pathways to help others map out entirely new tracks to pleasure.