Welcome to the Desire Pathways Blog
Here, Somatic Sexologist and certified somatic sex coach Michaela Tutty answers the burning questions submitted to the ‘Ask Michaela’ feature of the website.
She additionally writes about what happens in sessions, what sexual issues sex coaching can help with and other areas of sex, relationships and intimacy that pique her interest.
How do I find the right Sex Coach for me?
How do you find a safe, qualified sex coach? Explore 5 key things to check (from credentials and modality to ethical boundaries) before booking your first session.
Touched Out and Turned Off? How to Rewire Your Erotic Response
When touch feels like a demand rather than a delight, your body is sending you a message. Discover why sensory overstimulation puts desire on pause and how somatic practices can help you reclaim your body without guilt or performance pressure.
Ask Michaela: Advice on doing anal after a bad experience
Rebuilding safety around anal sex after a bad experience requires tuning into your body first. Learn how to distinguish an embodied "yes" from pressure, communicate clear boundaries, and explore anal pleasure on your own terms.
Exploring Affirmative Consent with the FRIES Model
Learn how to practice Planned Parenthood's FRIES model of consent in real life: Freely Given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, and Specific. Build trust, safety, and pleasure in your relationship.
The Skill of Orgasm: Overcoming Anorgasmia with Somatic Sex Coaching
Reaching regular orgasms is a learnable skill. Learn how somatic sex coaching uses body-based tools to help you get out of your head, release tension, and unlock pleasure.
Ask Michaela: What ways or things would you suggest for sex not to stop as soon as the man finishes?
What happens after climax? When intimacy ends as soon as the man finishes, both partners miss out on a deeper connection. Explore how redefining "sex" and understanding your body's nervous system can transform your intimate life.