Welcome to the Desire Pathways Blog
Here, Somatic Sexologist and certified somatic sex coach Michaela Tutty answers the burning questions submitted to the ‘Ask Michaela’ feature of the website.
She additionally writes about what happens in sessions, what sexual issues sex coaching can help with and other areas of sex, relationships and intimacy that pique her interest.
Ask Michaela: What ways or things would you suggest for sex not to stop as soon as the man finishes?
What happens after climax? When intimacy ends as soon as the man finishes, both partners miss out on a deeper connection. Explore how redefining "sex" and understanding your body's nervous system can transform your intimate life.
Ask Michaela: Is there such a thing as “too much” masturbation?
Worried your self-pleasure habits are affecting your sexual performance or relationship intimacy? Certified sex coach Michaela Tutty explores the science behind masturbation frequency, performance anxiety, and how to cultivate a shame-free solo practice.
Ask Michaela: Rebuilding Sexual Confidence After an Ex Comes Out
"I lost my confidence after my ex came out to me." In this Ask Michaela Q&A, we explore practical tools and somatic exercises to unpick performance anxiety, establish low-stakes boundaries, and reclaim your sexual agency.
Ask Michaela: How can males last longer in bed?
Ever found yourself counting light fixtures or trying to feel less during sex just to delay a climax? In this Ask Michaela edition, I break down why quick-fix distraction tactics fail, how your nervous system's "brakes and accelerators" work, and 3 evidence-based somatic tools to help you stay present and confident.
Ask Michaela: Why Can I Squirt During Masturbation but Not With a Partner?
Experiencing a shift in pleasure when moving from solo play to sex with a partner is common. Discover the two main reasons why squirting or ejaculating can be harder to achieve with a partner, from emotional safety to set pleasure pathways, and how to bridge the gap.
Ask Michaela: How to Approach Your Partner During a Relationship Dry Spell
Navigating a multi-month relationship dry spell can feel isolating, but understanding your desire dynamics is the first step toward reclaiming your connection. By introducing low-pressure check-ins and prioritising goal-free somatic touch, you can safely dismantle performance anxiety and invite genuine intimacy back into your partnership. Read on for practical communication tips and body-first strategies to help you and your partner.