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Ask Michaela: Rebuilding Sexual Confidence After an Ex Comes Out
"I lost my confidence after my ex came out to me." In this Ask Michaela Q&A, we explore practical tools and somatic exercises to unpick performance anxiety, establish low-stakes boundaries, and reclaim your sexual agency.
Ask Michaela: How can males last longer in bed?
Ever found yourself counting light fixtures or trying to feel less during sex just to delay a climax? In this Ask Michaela edition, I break down why quick-fix distraction tactics fail, how your nervous system's "brakes and accelerators" work, and 3 evidence-based somatic tools to help you stay present and confident.
Ask Michaela: Why Can I Squirt During Masturbation but Not With a Partner?
Experiencing a shift in pleasure when moving from solo play to sex with a partner is common. Discover the two main reasons why squirting or ejaculating can be harder to achieve with a partner, from emotional safety to set pleasure pathways, and how to bridge the gap.
Ask Michaela: How to Approach Your Partner During a Relationship Dry Spell
Navigating a multi-month relationship dry spell can feel isolating, but understanding your desire dynamics is the first step toward reclaiming your connection. By introducing low-pressure check-ins and prioritising goal-free somatic touch, you can safely dismantle performance anxiety and invite genuine intimacy back into your partnership. Read on for practical communication tips and body-first strategies to help you and your partner.
Ask Michaela: Clit vs. Tongue Penetration—What’s the Secret to Great Head?
A reader asks how to balance tongue penetration with clitoral focus during oral sex. We unpack the anatomy of "shallowing," why 70-80% of vulva owners need external stimulation to climax, and how a somatic approach can take the pressure off the "finish line."