Welcome to the Desire Pathways Blog
Here, Somatic Sexologist and certified somatic sex coach Michaela Tutty answers the burning questions submitted to the ‘Ask Michaela’ feature of the website.
She additionally writes about what happens in sessions, what sexual issues sex coaching can help with and other areas of sex, relationships and intimacy that pique her interest.
Ask Michaela: Why Can I Squirt During Masturbation but Not With a Partner?
Experiencing a shift in pleasure when moving from solo play to sex with a partner is common. Discover the two main reasons why squirting or ejaculating can be harder to achieve with a partner, from emotional safety to set pleasure pathways, and how to bridge the gap.
Ask Michaela: How to Approach Your Partner During a Relationship Dry Spell
Navigating a multi-month relationship dry spell can feel isolating, but understanding your desire dynamics is the first step toward reclaiming your connection. By introducing low-pressure check-ins and prioritising goal-free somatic touch, you can safely dismantle performance anxiety and invite genuine intimacy back into your partnership. Read on for practical communication tips and body-first strategies to help you and your partner.
Ask Michaela: Clit vs. Tongue Penetration
A reader asks how to balance tongue penetration with clitoral focus during oral sex. We unpack the anatomy of "shallowing," why 70-80% of vulva owners need external stimulation to climax, and how a somatic approach can take the pressure off the "finish line."
Ask Michaela: Why have I lost interest in sex with my partner when I'm still deeply in love?
Loving your partner deeply doesn’t always guarantee an automatic erotic spark. Discover the biological and somatic reasons why your sexual desire naturally shifts over time, and learn how you can intentionally create a safe, pressure-free environment to help your body safely turn back on.
Ask Michaela: During sessions, do you give demonstrations?
Curious about how body-based sex and intimacy coaching works in practice? Let’s pull back the curtain on how demonstrations work, what safety boundaries are always in place, and what you can expect in a coaching session.