Welcome to the Desire Pathways Blog

Here, Somatic Sexologist and certified somatic sex coach Michaela Tutty answers the burning questions submitted to the ‘Ask Michaela’ feature of the website.

She additionally writes about what happens in sessions, what sexual issues sex coaching can help with and other areas of sex, relationships and intimacy that pique her interest.


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Ask Michaela: How to Approach Your Partner During a Relationship Dry Spell

Navigating a multi-month relationship dry spell can feel isolating, but understanding your desire dynamics is the first step toward reclaiming your connection. By introducing low-pressure check-ins and prioritising goal-free somatic touch, you can safely dismantle performance anxiety and invite genuine intimacy back into your partnership. Read on for practical communication tips and body-first strategies to help you and your partner.

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Ask Michaela: Clit vs. Tongue Penetration

A reader asks how to balance tongue penetration with clitoral focus during oral sex. We unpack the anatomy of "shallowing," why 70-80% of vulva owners need external stimulation to climax, and how a somatic approach can take the pressure off the "finish line."

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